Delete your Tweets
I’ve been trying to decrease my social media screen time during the week to really try and be present in the moment. But, here’s the thing. I get conflicted with social media. Being an entrepreneur in the media industry, you ideally should be posting daily, to show the world what you’re working on. But, on the other hand, how beneficial is it to watch runner-ups from The Bachelor sell FabFitFun boxes. Finding the perfect balance between business and mental health, around social media, is a real challenge.
The Kevin Hart tweet scandal really had me thinking about my own social media. Now, if you live under a rock, I’ll explain what happened. Some f*cked up tweets from Kevin Hart surfaced resulting in him stepping down from his newly assigned role as this year’s host of the Oscars. Kevin Hart tweeted “Yo if my son comes home & try’s 2 play with my daughters doll house I’m going 2 break it over his head & say n my voice ‘stop that’s gay’.” Everything that is wrong with that tweet can be dissected in another blog post but it had me reflecting on my own social media. The next moment, I quickly deleted all my tweets (I used Tweet Deleter) to clean up my Instagram. I really don’t trust my 19 year old self tweeting some sort of nonsense, while I’m 5 tequila shots deep in the back of a college bar. As millennials, we are at a pivotal point where we are gearing up to take on senior level leadership roles and I would hate for a tweet from early 2000s to ruin that for one of us. Whatever you put out onto social media, whether it’s an image, a FB status or a tweet, someone is forming an opinion about you- consciously or subconsciously they’re judging you.
Finding your Tribe
What a week, I can’t believe 2018 was 3 seconds long. This past weekend I had a Pretty Little Liars reunion. We refer to ourselves as the ‘Pretty Little Liars’ because we use to have viewing parties for that riveting show. Naturally, I’m Emily because we’re both homosexuals. We all gathered at Hannah’s in sweats, ordered Swiss Chalet and we were getting ready to watch the Victoria Secret Fashion Show for the third time. Spencer, who teaches children all day showed up with a zip up hoodie and her energy was different. Being a pretty little liar, you have to be in tune with fashion, seeing Spencer wear a zip-up hoodie was so weird to me. So we’re getting ready to watch the fashion show after inhaling Swiss Chalet and Spencer tells us to pause because she has something to say. She unzips the hoodie revealing a shirt that read “BABY MAMA”. THE LIARS ARE HAVING A BABY!
We spent hours just talking about the bundle of joy in Spencer’s tummy, our new life paths and just laughed. No one was on their phones, we didn’t even have a photoshoot moment (y’all know I live for a good photoshoot). It was friends catching up talking through my wedding plans, Aria’s recent divorce, Spencer’s new baby and even catching up with Hannah’s mom. I had such a life reflection on my drive home after hearing that Spencer is pregnant. It made me realize you need a tribe in life, a group of people who see you through your ups and downs. Life is too hard to walk through alone and you need people to celebrate your milestones and people to pick you up off the floor when you can’t stand on your own two feet. Call an old friend or text someone you’ve been meaning to connect with.
Power of your first THOT
A big realization I had this year is that I am my own worst enemy. My thoughts were holding me back and insecurities would flood out any and all the confidence I had in myself. One thing I realized is you sometimes can’t change your first thought, but you can reframe your second thought and control your first action. When you’re stuck in a life sucking fog, your thoughts are irrational. It’s crazy how just flipping your first thought can change your whole day. I use to wake up saying “ugh…I don’t want to do anything, wish I could just stay in bed and watch Housewives reruns”. Starting the day off with “ugh” isn’t necessarily the most positive way to start off the day. The whole “let’s be positive 24/7” is a lot and frankly unrealistic, you can’t be THAT positive all the time. So I thought to myself if being negative is unproductive and if positive all the time is just fake, why not start off neutral. I changed my thoughts to “I wonder what today has in store for me” to “I’m ready to tackle whatever today throws at me”. By starting off neutral with your thoughts allows you to have a strong mindset to handle wherever your day takes you.
I want to take a moment to express gratitude to you for reading. I was truly surprised at the amount of messages from my previous blog and I thank you because it motivates me to keep writing. Keep your tribe tight, clean up your social media and retrain your thoughts, it will put you in a great place to kick-off 2019.